Remember the first time you shagged alone or with a friend? The self and/or mutual discovery of pleasure loaded your hypothalamus with serotonin and your blood stream with endorphins. For some who were indoctrinated by elders and peers against mastrubation and/or sex wiggled in guilt post the act that limited the half life of their endorphins and serotonin. One must accept that at some point in our lives sex becomes mechanical and loses novelty; it often needs a context to make it interesting and appealing and also retain the excitement we all had during the discovery phase in our adolescence. From my personal experiences let me share five contextual sex that has helped me find pleasure.
Let's begin with Charity sex: Charity is often associated with spirituality and comes with tax exemption. Not sure if you will get any spiritual miles credited for this kind of sex, but the act of gifting someone an orgasm doubles your joy (endorphins and serotonins). The excitement and associated reward mechanism in the human brain and blood stream is the same irrespective of you whether you share some pocket change or give them a memorable sex. Sex is the oldest form of currency. Sometimes when I visit a park or a sauna and if I am in a benevolent mood I try and look for men who are old, dark complexioned, fat, bald, minority race, etc.) who are often ignored because of prejudices and preferences of the young. It gives me more pleasure to be relished by a man who not sought after and I have often seen his passion double up during the act of copulation.
How can you forget power-sex? My earliest blogs was on this topic and it gave me so much more excitement when I first slept with my professor in college. I fantasized a few of my teachers in school and I finally conquered a few in my college. I could in no way compete with him on intellectual front, but I could conquer his sexual side with my virility, servitude and seduction. It was always nice to be called into his room and sneak under his table for some snack or be spanked in private. Yes, I went beyond the books and I saw and I knew more than my fellow classmates. And every time I conquered, I felt I topped the class and graduated with a honors degree.
Welcome sex: I have received emails, phone class and text messages asking me if I could meet their gay friends traveling to my city, show him around the city and make them feel at home. First few times I didn't have any idea that such requests were often loaded and one must be open to read more between the lines and legs. Anyone who travels into a city is anxious, curious, and also wants to take home some beautiful memories. Welcome sex is an opportunity to put your city high on their list of memorable sex in your city. It is also an opportunity to showcase your hospitality and make them feel special. So, are you ready to welcum them in your monu(men)tal city?
Workplace sex: We've often heard of stress at work and work place bully, yes, work is rarely fun. How can one get a quick relief from a stressful day, demanding deadlines and demeaning boss? Sex at workplace with colleagues could be a nice option. Last time I turned on the social hook-up app (I'm not publicizing them here) I found a few colleagues in my office. Over a few hours and days we exchanged pictures, preferences and fetishes and I could get behind the closed stalls in the toilet for a quick relief. The adrenaline rush of making out in a 5x3 public stall or back seat of my car in a parking lot gave us more pleasure and challenge - when the risk is high the reward is more! Like resting rooms, crèche for children and pets, to recreation rooms, mutually consensual sex booths should be made a perk at workplace. Sex keeps you healthy, happy and stress-free.
Break-up sex: This is very much an antonym of Charity sex. Before we make the currency of sex null and void we always want one last time to sexplore with a friend with benefits or longterm partner. We want to convince ourselves that we can find something better, emotionally and physically climb over the person. Break-up sex is the last analysis before you decide if you should break-up or go with a retainer until you find your next Plan A. Like how we create back-ups at work for business as usual, I create back-ups and Plan Bs. The trick is to keep this a secret so that the other person doesn't end up breaking down in the bed.
While I work on Part 2 of this blog, try out some of these if you haven't already. Good luck!
