Hygiene and Safety

Jason muscles were all tensed up and with a big moan he just dumped a big load on Ram’s chest. Was that Ram’s honey-do order? I don’t know, but Ram received the load with a big yes, eyes intoxicated with lust and squeezing Jason’s love handles. It was fresh, gooey, the tinge of yellow glistened against the natural light that entered the room without their permission.

Did Jason ejaculate his passion and lust that overpowered him for the last 35 mins? There was a sense of relief in Jason’s body language, his muscles were relaxed and he lay besides Ram like an exhausted laborer after a long day. While Ram picked up the pearl necklace with his finger, played with the consistency and beamed a radiant smile on his face. Was Ram’s behavior a sign of affection, admiration or satisfaction?

Not sure if Jason took cognizance of Ram’s finger play, but he picked himself up from the bed and rushed towards the bathroom. A volley of kisses, passionate moans and what looked like an inseparable union was now quickly replaced with sound of the door bolt, separation, water rushing to fill up the bucket.

Jason stood impatiently starring at the tap and waiting for the bucket to fill up. He pulled out the anti-lice solution from the medicine cabinet and emptied a good amount of Dettol (antiseptic and germicide) into the bucket. He picked up the tooth brush and generously covered it with the neem flavored paste to reclaim his oral hygiene. Ram had no idea what was happening behind the closed bathroom door, but he sat on the bed unperturbed by the sudden disconnect. Isn’t that how it is for many of us? It crossed Ram’s mind if he should just use the facial tissues in his bag to clean-up Jason’s gift and get dressed before Jason comes out in his towel.

Jason and Ram picked each other up on the metro ride an hour ago. What suddenly appeared in the scene that separated the two bodies, evaporated the overpowering pheromones, while making one feel soiled and unclean and the other feel lonely and not needed?

The exchanged basic information (age, preference, whose place to go to, etc.) and when they got behind the four walls, their focus was to make love to each other’s body and not care about their cleanliness before their union. Treating each other with respect and satisfying each other is one thing, but ensuring we engage in a safe and clean way is paramount, but seldom practised.

Many amongst us are like Jason, we care about hygiene and safety post sex rather than pre-sex. In the next few blogs, I will share my learnings and experiences; the first time when I picked up crabs aka body lice (the very thought still gives me an itch), the scary feeling that I went through when I saw a broken condom when I pulled out my phallus, how my ex-boy friend (a doctor) examined my pubic area for warts before we began our first physical union.

It is time to learn and unlearn. So, come back with Ram’s passion and patience!